When adult children move back in
July 5, 2016
By: Liann Walborsky, AVP, Communications, Tech CU
Your adult child has finished
school and is now starting a new life — at home. According to a Pew Research
Center survey, over half of parents in the U.S. with adult children say they helped
their adult kids financially in the previous year. Some of that help came
in the form of letting their kids move back home. If you'll be welcoming a
“boomerang” child, here are some tips to know.
1. Write down expectations.
If you and your
child agree on ground rules before moving-back-in day, it can help prevent
misunderstandings down the road. You could even create a written contract for
all parties to sign. The stated expectations could spell out the purpose for
the stay, such as helping your child keep expenses low while looking for a job,
and how long your kid can live at home before it's time to move out again.
You'll probably also want to
include non-financial expectations, such as having everyone share chores, just
as housemates would normally do. And if it bugs you to have your child bringing
guests at odd hours, you can make that known upfront.
2. Keep watch over your
finances. Allowing
another adult to live in your home will likely increase your expenses for such
things as utilities and food. As your child prepares to return, it's a good
time to review your budget. You'll still want to cover your day-to-day living
expenses while also staying on track to meet your retirement goals.
3. Charge rent. One way to ease the expense of opening up
your home is to have your boomerang kids pay rent, a portion of utilities and
part of the grocery bill. It could help you avoid overspending — and help your
kids be prepared to expect these expenses when they move out on their own. If
you can afford it, consider setting aside some of your kids' rent payment to
return to them when they're ready to move, or to help them pay
off debt.
4. Be wary of lending. If you loaned a child money that he or she
can't repay, it could strain your relationship. Also think very carefully
before agreeing to cosign a loan. While it can help your son or daughter
establish credit, cosigning could put you on the hook for a loan your child
isn't ready to take on.
5. Prepare for special
situations. There may be
cases where you know your child isn't likely to be able to live independently —
because of a disability, for example. You can help such a child prepare
to live on his or her own by setting
up a special needs trust. A conversation with a financial advisor who
specializes in these issues can help get you started.
When children come home after
college, it can be a great opportunity. By setting expectations and helping
them save money, you can give your boomerang child a smart start on a successful
financial life.
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Posted July 5, 2016 by Liann Walborsky
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